As an introduction to the blog each month, I’ll set up and answer a question or series of questions to address the basic challenges us professionals face every day in reaching our goals and offer solutions for how to overcome them.
Do you know where you and/or your organization are going?
It surprises me how few individuals and/or organizations have a clear understanding of what they want to accomplish in the next one to five years. Don’t get me wrong, most organizations have a goal-setting process, but those goals are often written only to be placed into a file folder and dusted off once or twice a year; typically as part of the Human Resources evaluation process.
In my experience, highly effective people/organizations are very clear about their objectives, and these objectives are highly measurable. Where applicable, the objectives cascade into the organization so that, from the board room to the individual contributor, the Mission Statement is being worked on.
But that isn’t enough.
If it were enough to just determine what you wanted to HAVE, creating a strategic team/individual plan wouldn’t be that complicated. Unfortunately, human behavior often gets in the way of us achieving our stated HAVE.
There is a simple concept that highly effective people continually practice in order to master. It’s difficult to know whom to credit for this concept, which is expressed in myriad of different ways and in different writings/trainings, etc.
BE → DO → HAVE
Establishing a strategic team/individual plan is an exercise in determining what we want to HAVE. Too many times we then move in to identifying what we need to do in order to access what we want to HAVE. The issues arise in how we are BEING, which dictates what we DO and thus what we will HAVE.
Don’t go. Let me explain and provide a simple example of how this plays out.
Let’s use an example of my desire to have a great relationship with my wife.
HAVE – deep meaningful relationship with wife
In this case, if I take the normal approach to this with my wife of 25 years, I move into what I need to DO in order to accomplish this.
DO – buy flowers, take her out to dinner, do the dishes, take out the garbage (umm, not things I really enjoy doing by the way – just being authentic here.)
Without an understanding of this concept, I pay no conscious attention to my way of BEING.
BE – cheap (the flowers are just going to die; what a waste.), resentful (I didn’t make these dirty dishes, I’ve been traveling for work for three weeks straight, she’s just sitting there reading, etc.), spiteful (she better see how much I love her by walking through two feet of snow to get the garbage to the sidewalk; when is she going to get up and help me shovel?)
Because of my thought process and way of BEING, what I actually HAVE might just be a little different than what I had hoped for.
HAVE – a wife who clearly sees that I am trying to manipulate her in order to get what I want and therefore holds back
If I can be conscious of my way of BEING and choose to BE loving, kind, patient and accepting then the things I DO and the way in which I do them generate a more positive result.
I get that this is a very personal example. Here is a recent client example:
A senior executive I worked with was frustrated with the lack of results and timeliness from her team, which created negative patterns of how she worked with those around her.
Old pattern:
BE – agitated, frustrated, impatient
DO – harass her team, send e-mails pushing them to move faster, pull things out of their hands and take over projects and activities, etc.
HAVE – disempowered team (kids) that stopped making decisions and avoided risks, discouraged and unmotivated team, poor results
Once this executive was able to see that her way of BEING was generating her results, she was able to choose how she was going to BE in order to DO different things to HAVE a different outcome. This created a new pattern of working.
New pattern:
BE – accepting (different than resigned), patient, encouraging, empowering
DO – clearly communicate about results and timeframes, hold accountability meetings to review status and course correct, generate empowering conversations to drive sense of urgency and need for results
HAVE – timely and effective results
Play around with the BE → DO → HAVE concept. Think of a professional example and a personal example from your life and see what you come up with. I’d love to hear from you about some of your experiences.
Next month, we will discuss the need for accountability. How are you going to hold yourself and the organization accountable to their objectives?